It ‘s a known fact that men often start off hot, spicy and heavy in relationships…….but then as quickly as they started, they unexpectedly turn ice cold.
Our first reaction to this unexpected behavior is usually characterized with several questions such as, what in the world did I do wrong?, was it something I said or didn’t say?, is my rejection predetermined by simply being me?....a whole lot of questions fill a confused and despaired mind.
The essence of this article however, is to bring to the fore, what might have been the generating or fueling factor for the triggered behavior experienced by your partner.
*P.S, This is not saying we don’t have jerks around who claim to be men, going around with one single goal in mind, knocking up anything in skirt and then scampering off like nothing happened. This is simply a means to better ourselves and avoid some common pitfalls we have often time been faced with and allowed in relationships.
The only person you are capable of handling (and I say handle….not manipulate) in any given relationship is yourself. You are absolutely responsible for yourself and how a man treats you in a relationship. Everybody goes through life with the desire to be loved, respected and given attention. The absence or sudden withdrawal from this especially in relationships sets in some sort of panic and Instinctively, there’s the need to quickly fix the problem, mend what seems to be breaking or fill the empty space building.
The more this is done, the worse the situations gets…..if this has ever happened to you, you can always holla……
You will never see things from your partner’s eyes because you are two entirely different people. Men and women are wired differently, attempting to change this is almost unnatural and the earlier this is understood the better because you would be guarding yourself from the hurts and frustrations that come from trying to change the other.
My next article bothers on The reason men walk away even when the relationship is so gooooood…, , but this article for today captions what you should try to avoid when at some point in your relationship the man you so desire just seems to be disengaging from you…remember, the goal here is to maintain the attraction..
DON’T: There’s a tendency for you to want to fill in the building empty space by constantly sharing your thoughts and feelings, the need to tell him how much you love or like him. Don't.
BETTER WAY: Avoid rushing ahead. Give him time and space in your interactions. There’s a possibility here that he’s evaluating the relationship or generally testing you.
DON’T: Telephone calls have reduced; physical distance is telling, he’s constantly telling you he’s busy and that you should give him time and you’re now killing him with kindness by complimenting him every chance you get, calling him all the time, doing favors that are unsolicited for and generally trying to show him that you can be the special companion to him.
BETTER WAY: Think playful instead of nice. Be unpredictable and intriguing. Create tension and interest by not always doing or saying the “obvious”. This I assure you will keep him thinking and wondering about you, and get him doing things to get more of your time and attention.
DON’T: Sleep with him in the hopes that by being close and intimate, he’ll realize how much he likes you and how amazing you are together. He won’t change his mind even after you've had the most exciting rumbling sheet experience. Take on convincing or pleading behaviors’, its 100% guaranteed to make him withdraw farther away from you.
BETTER WAY: Communicate to him in a dignified, yet humble manner that you’re selective and that you respect yourself. Create what’s more emotional with him than physical..He’ll respect you more for it.
Well now if after you’ve tried, he still doesn’t budge, then he needs to get his head examined.lolllll
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