If you've not read the part one, please do....
Step #2: Invite Love, Don't Demand It
Have you felt hurt or angry at your man and
found yourself saying a whole bunch of things
that started with: "I need. I want. I deserve.
You should. You need to. You'd better"?
If those phrases sound familiar to you, that's
because you were talking from the space of
ENTITLEMENT.
Meaning, you felt like you were "entitled" or
deserved to have your man do or say something to
make you feel better about yourself or the
relationship.
You can have very good reasons for feeling
this way.
Maybe you feel like you've been doing all the
WORK in the relationship, and all the sharing,
while all he's done is get distant or confuse you
with what he says and does.
Maybe you've been doing your best to make him
happy and you've been withholding how you REALLY
feel because you don't want to hurt him or start
a fight.
So you feel stifled and powerless in the
relationship.
After doing that sort of thing long enough,
it's no wonder you feel like you DESERVE and NEED
to get the love, respect and consideration back
that you've put in.
And yeah, you do deserve all those things.
It doesn't make much sense to you that he
doesn't see or realize how hard you've been
working to make things right between you.
But in a man's mind, when he sees you shutting
down, pushing him away, and then he hears you
telling him how he needs to be doing this, or how
he'd better do that, it doesn't make much sense
to him, either.
When you're feeling hurt and start telling him,
"You should" or "You really need to", you'll
likely not get the kind of reaction you're
expecting.
Instead of seeing how you feel, a man will
simply SHUT DOWN and back even further away from
you.
A man has to have HIS OWN REASONS for wanting
to do all the things that make you happy and keep
your relationship strong.
You can never, ever, ever tell a man how to
feel or act - just as a man should never do this
with you.
But you can INSPIRE a man, and you can share
what it is that you like, love and want.
And therein lies the secret of having a
relationship where the man in your life is
irresistibly attracted and devoted to you.
Fortunately, there's a way to ask for what
you need that will have him WANTING to give you
more.
This way is not about ENTITLEMENT, blaming or
demands...
But by INVITING him, by opening up and making
it very easy for him to give you want you want.
(Men love nothing more than feeling like it's easy
for them to make you happy as a woman- but only
when they feel like it's THEIR CHOICE.)
Wow. Sounds complicated and like it's too much
work.
Wrong.
It's dumb-easy once you know how.
You can start to create these powerful shifts
in the way your man responds to you simply by
changing the way you phrase things.
Instead of saying, "I need you to..."
You can say, "It would really make me feel
loved if you were to..."
I can't tell you how much most women resist
doing this because they think it's silly. but when
they finally speak the words they work like MAGIC.
Try it.
Here's another.
Instead of telling him, "You should really need
to (do this or that)"...
You can invite him by saying, "It would really
make me happy if you would (doing this or that)."
It doesn't take much to shift your energy and
become more inviting and therefore INSPIRE your
man to want to give you more of what you want and
need.
If you're not convinced, think back to a time
when you felt hurt or angry and you closed off to
your man. You blamed him. You didn't talk to him
for hours or days. You criticized and demanded.
How did he respond?
Did he become more generous and tender with
you?
Or did he become defensive or distant?
I think you'll realize that the energy you
bring to your relationship has a HUGE effect on
what you get out of it.
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