Monday, July 28, 2008

Getting Disappointed Sucks!


A problem free life on earth is simply impossible.Life has its own fair share of worries, troubles and stress.There are times when your expectations from people and things are cut short.No wonder the "BIBLE" says in Jeremiah 17:5 and i quote " Cursed is the man that puts his trust in mortal man and turns his heart away from God..He is a like a stunted shrub in the desert, with no hope for the future...But blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord and has made Him his confidence..Its leaves stay green and goes right on producing all its luscious fruit.
I speak with respect to man, The heart is the most deceitful thing there is, and desperately wicked.No one can know how bad it is!Only the Lord knows!.....

Disappointments happens to everybody and most times we just can't figure out how to handle them.I was really disappointed over the weekend and so i decided to do this article.

While reading Dr.Phil's Love Smart..I realized i had two options in reacting to my disappointment.One was to to spend the entire weekend freaking out, or taking a few deep breaths, chilling out and shrugging it off as one of life's little mysteries. Your guess is a good as mine, is chose the second option, even though it didn't seem comfortable but for the sake of peace, i had to follow thru.

Most importantly, besides dealing with it this way,I learnt to turn over the pain to God.The truth is nothing happens outside his consent.He knows best and He can turn the disappointment to defining blessings.Pray about it and ask Him to take control.

I decided to quit worrying and being fearful.The goal of the above is to make me feel bad enough to quit trying in its entirety.

I decided to laugh.Laughter they say is good medicine for the soul.It is always advisable to laugh, why because tears will always prevent you from seeing possibilities.Decide to get around people who'd make you cheerful.

While doing the above, i decided to find out more on what i could do to get over the disappointing event, so i searched and this in addition to what's already been stated is what i got.

Sing: Yes you heard right. Sing. Nothing lifts disappointment or soothes a weary soul like good music. Drown the disappointment through singing or listening to some good music.

Go again. Don't quit: A lot of people fail because they quit. If you failed or were disappointed before, try again. If you were told no earlier, ask again. No is only one side of the coin. Flip it again and it might just turn out to be yes. You did not get it yesterday can actually turn out to become a “you got it today”. It does not take God 12 years to handle a 12 year old problem and it does not take God to handle a lifetime problem. There is no great man or woman that has not had to learn to handle disappointment on the way to success, achievement and greatness.

Don't stop believing in you and in God: Disappointment wants you to give up on God, you and your dreams. It knows very well that the only way it can stop you is to get you to stop. No one says you will not feel bad when you experience disappointment. We all face disappointment but do not dwell on yours or let them chart the course of your life or dreams. Despite what has happened believe that your dream is still possible. You can reach your original goal if you still want to.

Talk to you: There is power in words. There is power in confession. Talk to yourself. Tell yourself “I can make it”. Talk to you. Inspire yourself through self motivation. Encourage yourself even when no one does so. Declare and say “I know all things are working for my good because I love God”. Your words can make or unmake you. Speak the right words and the right stuff will happen to you.

Remember it takes guts to leave the ruts. Don't quit yet. Its too late to quit if you are a winner.

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