Break Ups

I am dedicating this article to all my friends going through a break up right now.

Breaking up with someone you have once nursed the feeling of sharing your whole life with is one very painful experience no one wishes to go through. They are seldom easy to handle in the beginning, but given time and following these ideas, you can lessen the pain, protect yourself and successfully get over the person.

1. Stop all communications - This involves making phone calls and text messaging.Avoid sending emails.If you will be tempted to call him, delete his phone number from your memory..lol..., avoid going to the places you usually went to together while you're grieving, Let go of pictures of you together, etc..

2. Allow yourself to cry - Release all the suppressed energy.Cry and release all the emotions and chemicals from your body.


3. Get your feelings out by finding solace with family and friends.Express your anger, sorrow, hurt. Verbalize them, put them into writing if you want, just get it out.Don't try to suppress any of them.

4. Be reasonable and Amicable. Break ups don't have to be nasty or filled with revenge plots. In venting channel your emotions to writing or talking with family and friends, not the person who broke up with you. Avoid rubbing salt into an already bad wound.

5. Meditate and Pray - Turn to God....He's close to the broken hearted.

6. Take care of yourself - This is the time to do everything in your power to stay very healthy. The resulting feeling of most break ups is shock, depression, and tardiness. Avoid eating unhealthy meals or taking pills or alcohol to suppress the pain.

7. Keep Busy - Get yourself completely distracted. It helps to remain engaged. Take classes, get involved with your interests. Don't run away or try to hide.

8. Surround yourself with love - This could be friends, family, whoever you find that nourishes, supports and comforts you. Most break ups leave people second guessing their identity and worth.Reach to others who can help.

9. Give yourself time to heal - The need to distract shouldn't force you to start a new relationship to feel less lonely.It's unfair to you as well as the other party.You might end up going through another cycle.

10. Hold unto the hope of newness - There's always life after a break up.Hold onto the hope even if does not feel like the pain will ever end. Keep telling yourself, that the pain will pass.

Making a list might make it seem easy, its not....But the truth is you'll get by and the pain will end...how long i can't assure you...but it will end...

GIVE YOURSELF TIME, BE PATIENT WITH THE PROCESS.......

IT WILL PASS AND YOU WILL SURVIVE...