I want to use the opportunity to thank Hiconsulting for the comment posted on my blog, i also thank those who couldn't post but gave their answers verbally.
I realized in the course of handling the issue, there was great need for caution. That was why viewer comments were being requested for.
The role of sex in a man's lose of interest in a relationship can never be overemphasized, but cannot always be placed as the reason for most failures in relationships. Case in point, we have seen relationships that never had any sexual intimacy fall apart and those who did have sexual intimacy last for as long as it could...so i gather, its not the major reason why men lose interest. It could simply be any of the reasons given in part 1.
Human need for emotional connection, love, care, attention and intimacy is very powerful making it a need for some to have sexual intimacy in relationships.The inability to differentiate between sex and intimacy has however created a lot of problems.
A man gives love to have sex, while women give sex for love..as the saying goes. The truth is never farfetched from this because, women oftentimes mistake sex for love.
Sex is never a cure for loneliness, neither is a solution to fixing or maintaining a relationship.The need to use sex as a bait or a manipulative tool in a relationship will never guarantee a deep rooted relationship, rather it would only lead to resentment on the man's part and more disappointment for the woman.
Sex is not love, you cannot make a man stay or love you by giving him what you think he needs.
P.S, This is not to say sex is not fun, exciting and fabulous, but it should never be mistaken for love.
There are certainly men out there who respect women enough to not use them for their sexual pleasures, and it is also very true that there are guys who just want to cut to the chase and get going, after settling into the woman's psych with all the deception applicable. Suffice to say, it is not entirely the men's fault, because it takes two....( and i'll leave it at that for now)
A man whose aim is to sleep with you and walk, shows major symptoms of "IMMATURITY". Anyone who takes bed hopping as a sign of validation of his/her existence shows a lack of character, judgement and worst of all self esteem. The absence of emotional and spiritual maturity plays a major role in prompting his decisions.
Here, the maturity i refer to has nothing to do with age or physical strength, i refer simply to the ability to make responsible decisions.
Ladies do not be confused,if you so desire intimacy and would love to maintain and keep your relationship, do not expect that sex will bring it to you.
There is something about delayed gratification. The need to wait no matter the pressure. Both parties would be giving themselves room to truly grow, know, respect and appreciate themselves but most of all, get to know the true intimacy that comes from sharing friendship,joy, sadness, fears and worries. This form of deep intimacy cannot be gotten from sex.
P.S, Be clear,SEX IS NOT LOVE.
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