Reason He lost Interest in u

In my second article, I mentioned that my next article on relationships would be about the reason men walk away even when the relationship is so gooooood…, I am however, going to be rephrasing the title from what I said it would be to Possible reasons a man would lose interest in a relationship and ways you can avoid it.

P.S, There are never 100% how to’s in relationships, so I am going to state this categorically to you.

Will this work for everyone?

Certainly not,

Will it work for some?

Definitely!

The goal however, is to incorporate, view and see if this applies to you and ways it could help.

Pondering on how to convey this to you effectively, I had to review my past and present relationships. I realized that most of my relationships had gone sour even before they materialized simply because I consistently towed the lines of these common pitfalls I am going to be listing out to you.

It could be downright frustrating after experiencing the love and attention of someone only to find out unexpectedly that he’s not just into you anymore. It would probably not be much of a deal when this happens with one or two guys, but if this now becomes a regular experience with men over and over, it would be hard not to take this personally and not start believing that there’s something about you that turns men off.

It is time to look within and see if this consistent roller coaster ride has something to do with you...


Are you the needy, clingy, dependent kind?
Men generally everywhere find it very difficult to handle women who show signs of these tendencies. Good and attractive men have met lots of women and can easily tell the needy ones, who usually rush relationships, cling too hard and are consistent drama queens. If you are this type, you automatically send a message to the guy in question that you’re not going to be fun to be with on the long term.

Get a hold of yourself if you are and find you. Commit squarely to finding your own centre and stop depending on any one to complete or validate you. Men feed off what you give off and whether you like it or not, you are constantly giving off something.

Are you boring and uptight?
Most Men love humor. They love to have a good a time every chance they get. If you generally don’t have much to say, don’t have ideas to contribute or share, or special ways of responding to what he says, thinks or believe, you will not be getting attention for a long time.

We all know how boring dates could be when your partner doesn’t just know what to say or generally how to respond to common and innocent jokes….it’s really awkward..Believe me that’s when the yawning starts……Nobody wants to stick around with anyone who makes you count the hours, it’s very frustrating.

You might be saying in your head right now, how then can I be interesting?

It’s simple!

You can always start by being exposed and enlightened. You could take time consciously to learn about yourself, your environment, read books, watch shows, go out, try out the things you’ve always wanted to do, engage yourself in meeting new people. Doing most of these, you automatically begin to form your views on issues thereby, giving you more materials to think about. Also, this will not only help you go far in improving your dating life but your day – to – day life with co – workers, friends and family. All of which you didn’t ever think existed and were available.

Most importantly in your relationship, find out the things he really likes, the things he likes to talk about, his hobbies, interests. For example, your man is a huge fan of one of the top premiership clubs, nothing and I mean absolutely nothing stops you from carving a niche around his hobbies. You are not only going to be fostering your relationship but enlightening yourself.

Are you annoyingly predictable?
Too much familiarity usually brings resentment. If a man knows how you are going to react or what you are going to say, then chances are that he won’t be thinking about you very often.

When you are lively and unpredictable, and by unpredictable, I am talking about you not doing the “obvious” the things he expects from you like not giving off the tone of voice he gets constantly, stopping the consistent naggings and bitching, avoiding the complaints and whining, reducing your excessive display of emotions, reducing the need to constantly compliment and advice, and finally stop the constant and repeated phone calls and text messaging. Nothing annoys me more in these entire category, even as a chic.

Once you’ve successfully put yourself together in the light of the above listed, he’ll be forced to spend time thinking about you and trying to figure you out.

Do you talk too much and listen less?
The Book of Proverbs says that even when a fool is quiet, he is considered wise. No matter how smart you are, if you constantly go on and on about yourself, dominating conversations, you eventually tire your partner out and bore them. Nothing is worse than a pretty fool.

Being quiet and listening with love is an attribute that we must all consider imbibing into our everyday lives. It is never a sign of weakness; rather it is filled with strength.

How do I listen with love?

It is listening with total and rapt attention with the intent of creating a deeper and meaningful connection and to totally understand the other party.

Everybody wants to be understood, heard, even when what they say is the most absolute rubbish ever. It won’t cost you anything to not judge or multi -task at that time…just listen.

Are you an excessive feminist?
If you are, you need to get off your high horse. No man who is willing to get married to a woman wants to be married to one who acts like a man, showing him she can be all a man can be. All too independent, with a lot of ego flying around.

Some men like these and some simply can’t stand it. I hate to break it to, but the majority of those who don’t outweigh those who do.

Men want the women who need them, who possess feminine voice, character and etiquette.

I won’t say more than this, please just get off your high horse, we all need these men, however, bad some of them are.

Have you lost yourself?
What this questions is how attractive you are. This might be a cruel fact, but it definitely rings a bell. It is a known fact that men are visual and they will only go for who catches their eye.

There are many reality shows out there today, examples, The American Idol, The Bachelor and Bachelorette… (I am sticking to this one’s for a cause so go along and don’t be distracted).
Packaging is always important, no unattractive contestant, no matter the talent has made the finals, simply because something’s just missing. You go for interviews and you’re not chosen simply because on the attraction level, you simply failed to connect. It’s a hard knock but the truth…which wawwaaaw, unattractive chic has ever won silver bird’s MBGN….picture that…

Nobody is asking you to be less of yourself, you are only asked to take care of yourself…it’s that simple.
If your man likes you making up, take make –up classes if you must and look good, if he likes them slim or heavily bodied, impress him but please don’t go overboard.

The idea here is to improve your looks and be more attractive. Dress well, clean up after you, put on a smile..that’s a knock out in being attractive, smell good, look sexy, carry yourself with pride and dignity, so he can easily point you out in a crowd and proudly say that’s my babe and not duck his head in shame.

Truth be told, we just have to remain physically attractive.

Are you tied to your past?
There are several ways this can affect you and your relationship. The disadvantage of holding onto your past is that it stunts your ability to be emotionally and physically intimate with your partner.

Now the intimacy I refer to here has nothing to do with being sexual. I refer simply to the joy of being in each other’s company, walking together or sharing a deep conversation.

If you do not disconnect from your past the true joy of intimacy that generates into trust, mutual understanding, romantic feelings of tenderness and longing to be cherished will not be experienced.


Are you selfish?
A man wants to know if your attraction for him is just only on his physical being, as supposed to his entire well being.

Our character no matter how long it is hidden somehow on the long run gets revealed. A sure way to make a man lose interest is to be selfish and consistently seek what’s in it for you.

Try if you can to approach him constantly and consistently with a sincere and delicate mixture of qualities. Focus on him and not what he’s got. Be genuinely interested in his fears, thoughts, hopes and dreams.

Simply put him at ease with these characteristics.

Finally, I delibrately saved this for last because it generates a lot of contradictions and it has to do with "SEX".
I will say little or barely anything on this matter, why because…uhmmm….it’s tricky. Right now there are two questions bouncing around in my head.
i. Will a man leave you once he has sex with you?
ii. Will he love you more?
I will save answering this for my next article, which is probably coming sooner than I expect myself.

There is never a guarantee in dating that a man won't lose interest in you at any point. By paying attention to the above, you might improve your chances of keeping any guy's attention and interest, making every time spent with you a wonderful experience and then also come across as a desirable and attractive woman, which won't give him any reason to leave.



See you soonest…

Toooodddddlllllllllllllooooooooooooo.