Tuesday, September 9, 2008

When a man loves a woman


Correct me if i am wrong, but when a man loves a woman i think this is what he'll do for her.


His mind is on her. He is consumed with thoughts of protection and provision. He pays close attention to her every word, her wants and desires. He looks for ways to please her, to lavish gifts upon her. If he truly cares about her, he won’t hold back materially…he’ll create little ways, find avenues to meet her needs.

When a man loves a woman he longs to be near her. Nothing else in his day to day life can come close to matching the memory of his time spent with her. He loves the sound of her laughter, the beauty of her smile. He is fascinated with her fluidity and entire personality.

Try to stand in the path of a man who truly loves his woman. Try to separate him from her. Try to keep them apart and you will experience the dedication, the drive, the sheer unrelenting force of his will power. He will move a city to get to her. He will leave everything behind and pursue her with a passion that has little or no regard for others. If you stand in his way he will punish you. You will quickly come to understand the consequences of blocking the path of a man who loves a woman.

When a man loves a woman his heart beats faster when he is with her. Emotions surface that he has no words for. At the mere sound of her voice, butterflies flutter in his chest and belly. 

When a man truly loves a woman, she knows she has been loved. Her body reacts to his slightest touch. Her ears can locate the sound of his whisper in a crowded room. She feels safe in his arms, secure in his presence. She has a peace in her mind when chaos surrounds her. She is confident that the determination and strength of Hercules is at her side.

When a man loves a woman, she is rest assured that he is a fortress for their home.
Sometimes a woman has a tainted past. Do you think he is concerned about the past? He is in love with her. His love for her covers her imperfections. He hopes the very best for her. He can leave her a gift on her pillow for no apparent reason other than to make her smile. He sees the good qualities in her and is blind to anything else.

When a man loves a woman he calls her on the phone in the middle of the day, just to hear her voice. He stops at the store and searches out the things she enjoys. He may not understand why she likes sweets and flowers and silk and delicate things. He may not understand how she finds beauty in jewelry and diamonds. It doesn't matter. He is on a mission. He brings these things to her because he loves her. 
Do you know how far a man will travel who loves a woman? Are you aware of the pain he will endure to reach her? Here is your answer. When a man loves a woman there is no limit to the distance he will go. There is no end to the struggle he will overcome to get to her. A man who loves a woman knows no pain too great. He will shed his blood for her; an adversary or his own, it is of no consequence.

When a woman has been loved by a man, she will know it. There is no mistaking this power with lust or ambition. She will know it and the world around her will know it. Look into her eyes, the evidence is there. You can see it in the way she longs for his touch and no other. If you are in doubt she will tell you quickly, "This is my man, my Prince, my Knight!" 

This should help you know, whether he’s stringing you along or deeply committed to you. Any relationship in my opinion that causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable, or that you have to work for, is too expensive.

Question?

Having spent 26+ years without a stable boyfriend...would it be advisable to jump ship and date anyone, just to avoid the alone times????

14 comments:

Afrobabe said...

This post has just helped me make a decision…he doesn’t love me!!!
As to ur question…depends on what you mean by a stable boyfie…do u love him? If yes you wouldn’t even ask that question…if you are asking then its time to move on…

Parakeet said...

Ehm...this is lovely. Very beautiful. He partially loves me so what do I do? Stay or leave?

As per your question me thinks no one shud settle for less cos you will eventually be unhappy so what's the point?

Parakeet said...

P.S.

Thanks for the lovely message on my blog...much appreciated.

Red Sapphire said...

afrobabe...u rock(yeah and ur bum is something to muse about)...lol..guess i'll be moving on then...am sure there's a wonderful bloke out there for me.thanks girl...

Parakeet...like i said before u too much joooooo...lots of love...thanks for the heads up...guess i wont be settling then.

Anonymous said...

Hi Little Red riding sapphire,
This your piece has got me thinking a lot.
I recognise some of the 'character-traits' as potrayed by this write up but then i ask, would you really call it love?
(Borrowing you opening line)I might be wrong but in my cynical mind, me thinks a man's doing all of this for an ulterior motive. For something he stands to gain if not on the short run,then in the long run.
But really aren't we all? Doing something for a long or short term benefit,that is. I guess this is just me rambling.
Anyway,on the other matter, when you say 'jump ship' what do you mean? if you are currently not on any ship, then there's no jumping involved. Please by all means, if you find something/one that makes you happy, do it/him. No girl deserves to be lonely? but dont settle for anything just to 'deal' with the alone times ooo
Thats my 2kobo.
Kachi fuo
Luchies

Red Sapphire said...

anon...i really wished i knew who this were, but i am guessing its oluchi..my oluchi...if its u am so glad u're commenting....u too much...taking ur advice keenly.
lots of love

Red Sapphire said...

Afrobabe..thanks alot..u're always on tyme...u no fit carry last jo..lol.
Infact the reason i did the post was cos i was angry...dated someone temporarily..it wasn't until we went our seperate ways that i realized he did come close to loving me, but that he was selfish emotionally and materially...na annoyance make me post this thing...
as for the question i asked....a friend asked me and i asked ya'll
Thanks alot for the reply...
Parakeet..i can't get enuf of your blog...
Afrobabe....aaahhhh...if i were a virgin i for don faint with all those pictures on ur blog...lol..
anon!....loved ur comment...

Jay said...

Awww..this was really lovely. Ha!!! i need to get me a man like this pronto...:)

On the question...never settle when in comes to love...thats not the way it should be.

Nice blog

Flourishing Florida said...

i can see dat someone has clearly read too many M&Bs.

ur question is too deep 4 d passages of dis blog. in fact, i can write a full book (some have already written) just 2 attempt 2 answer it. but 2 simply it, am assuming dat u've dated different sorts of men in those 26+ years, so u already know day just d act of dating anyone won't cut it - after all, as my sec sch igbo teacher used 2 say - man is man, everywhere

Red Sapphire said...

eeehhhehhe ehhhhheee...lol...lots and lots of laugh....e fit dey too much...just wanted to hear ya mouth on the topic....wo woow wwooo i like u still...
thanks

doll (retired blogger) said...

Nice article but it doesn’t follow sha, a man doesn’t have to do all that to let a woman knw he luvs her, different pple express themselves in diff ways. And in answer 2 ur question NO NO and NO

Confessions of a London gal said...

I think men always do these things wen things are fresh- give them a year- 15 months max and they (sometimes subconsiously) start to take their patner for granted.
The minute you find a man that continues to do the things he did when he was trying to get you- do me a favour and ask him if he's got a brother, will you? *wink*

greyamethyst said...

I am still looking for that broda with all these qualities.i'll let u know when i find him.i just pray he's not in pluto or where is the farthest planet sef?

Tigeress said...

Amen to ur blog!