Some things, yes are so tinzy winzy that you'd expect that one should know by now...but sometimes you just need to hear other people's take, say or words on the matter, for clarity sake and just to know.
I said sometime a while ago that i met someone,....we hit it off almost immediately.Considering my stuck up self, i was amazed at the way things went.Passions and emotions were flying around so quickly...so much so that after a week of our meeting...(shamefully speaking) we had sex. It was wonderful..i couldnt believe myself letting go like that but the whole experience for me was interesting.
Its been a month since the encounter of sheet rumbling...we've been talking but no show....by me that feels good,there's no pressure and it gives me a certain assurance that it wasn't all about sex.
Well right now, i am beginning to have doubts....y!....he sent me a message less than an hour ago asking if i was up for "HARD SEX" this weekend....i went blank for a few minutes...infact i didn't feel like replying...i kinda felt upset...he replied again and asked for my response..i still didnt let up..then he said bye..with an emoticon sticking out its tongue....
The first thoughts that swept thru me...was that he was the same as every other man i had met.
I really like this guy...infact he makes me feel like some men are different..but this just blew me...
Am i overreacting?....pls tell me..or is he just beginning to show his traits......Yikks!!!...I am in the running mood right about now....
Kai but i like him oh!!!!...P.S* I hope my family doesn't see this post...they will know i v been cutting corners....
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I wish I could be of help...
awwhhhh! now i am feeling sad....thats a first where somebody actually didnt have what to say....but its all good...still waiting...
I am thinking u shouldnt jump to conclusions....dont act hastily...wait on his next response....
I wouldnt read too much into it
Its still early days
You guys are still learning about each other
and your sense (or lack) of humour
he probably thought that would make you laugh, or smile or that you are okay with comments like that,
of which he was mistaken,
Thats all there is too it.
I wouldnt jump to comnclusions
Just reply with something like 'I reserve hardcore sex for the 15 date or something along those lines.
A little humour can say a lot.
First time here and not the last
So Li'l Sis, you've been cutting corners?
Was very tired when I read your post that was why I could not comment...
So you're okay with the talking and exchange of sweet nothings...for one month...and you think a man is built that way? (Read the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus)
I think he's very serious about his request and if you see him this weekend, something must to happen...but like Miss Definitely Maybe implied, a little humour in responding to him could make a difference. If you are okay with this, discuss your reservations / fears about the issue with him.
And please don't go about beating yourself for what happened one week after the meeting. That is "PAST".
Just kidding about the Sis thing, its Rita.
aaawwwhhh big sis...thanks...
missdefinitely maybe...so good to hear from u....
u caught me...i lack humor true true...i will take ur comments very seriously...
Am lost for words, but you could ask him what he is after, for real coz when you´ve been cutting corners it can put you at a disadvantage you know when really looking for long term.... i would say talk to him SERIOUSLY
Thanks emilia...but the cutting corners part was meant for my family not him...i haven't been cutting corners with him...i was only stating that considering my status at home...(homely, quiet and miss reserved girl wey i be) i might just land myself in trouble...shhssshh...nope vnt been cutting corners with him...
Most def...we'd be doint the talking...
Red Sapphire as babes we know deep down if/when a guy sends us or not. 'sending' us is totally different to liking us. He might like, but not send. So when it comes to that- u'll be the better person to judge. Asper guys being the same- I've come to realize- all guys are pervs. lol!! Even the good boys. But i still love them and is STILL waiting for my night in shining armour. lol! I myself laughed at my last statement.
Ok, Ok Ok now I get it, its with the family, not him... sigh of relief. Anyway talk to him still you build an open relationship with the guy without forcing or sounding too desperate... It will be fine..
By the way you are on my blog rounds too...love it here
No...@the start of a relationship?...put in check now....i remember something similar happening 2 me...i called the guy and blasted him bcos of it...he said sorry then chased all over ikoyi 2 c me...i saw it as a real eyeopener of what he thought of me...it change my view of him...i never disrepected him b4 so i kicked him 2 the curb...
Ehn...tigress...i am in need of believing that there's a man out there for all of us...our man...thanks for the comment really appreciate it...
Shuddy doo..ddooo...i am in deep thots over ur comments...thanks alot..
emilia...love ur blog
hmmmmm...
i think deep down u know the answer..as hard as it is to face the truth..
but yea, as some said, read too much into it just yet..who knows what he actually was thinkin?
To everyone who commented so far..thanks a bunch...he called a while ago saying he was just being himself..that he didnt mean to offend me...am certain he's very cautious now...cos we didnt get together for any show...maybe i scared him uhmnnn...
if your family catches you...deny, deny...lol. nice blog
hmmm. if u ask me o, i'd say he was being disrepectful, short & simple. however, he may have tot it was ok 2 talk like dat. i think it's ur duty 2 urself 2 put him on d right path. certain things r a no-no 4 u, straight up. i've a problem with some people's 'sense of humour'. if someone crosses ur boundary, u should tell them as quickly as possible so they retrace their steps. however if they do it again, den it's time 2 say goodbye 4 real
Thanks free flowing..i am thinking of giving him anoda chance..but we certainly need to sit down and trash out some serious issues...thanks alot for the comment...Bond girl..am unto u right now..going to check ur blog asap..
i'm sorry that i wont be of much help with my comment, therefore there wont really be a comment...lol
but i'll say while developing a sense of humor, do not compromise yourself, if u dont like what he said to u, let him know it... and if u actually like it, dont pretend u dont.
i told u i wont be much help!lol
Hmmm...see all of them..
Why are you upset?..i dont get it..you guys do it once and he chilled..maybe just to let you knw it's not all about sex..but the brother has been thinking about it all this while and he wants to BLOW your mind away again..because he cant hold anymore...simple..
Or...it could also be that..He's just not that into you..
Did i like,...did i not like...uhmm..didnt like it...but i like him....
thts not enuff to say u should run now...observe more of those trends....cos he just might be feeling randy
hmmm so you didnt like the sex??maybe thats why you're feeling all this..u dont want to go through it all again and be disappointed??Ok thats just me rambling on...but if he chilled after the first time, then thats cool and hey he probably feels comfortable now to send such a message?Like Emilia said you might need to consider talking to him...
Gurl m sorry...m having a bit of a Monday morning here so mightnt be of much help! Soweee xoxo
Thanks shonavixen and mz.cynic....
u ddnt like it? hmmmm. my dear o. b4 u do a repeat performance, abeg let him know dt dat first time ddnt cut it 4 u o. so dat he can amend his ways & make more efforts 2 please u. bad sex is unacceptable. a woman owes it 2 herself 2 speak up & say 'dat ddnt do it 4 me, dear. but so & so would, so could we try it please". if he's a true gentleman, ur pleasure will b his utmost goal
If your first time together wasn't all that, he probably felt it too and might feel it's his fault. He does seem a little insecure with the 'tongue sticking out' emoticon...trying to make it look like asking you for sex is no big deal.
The first time together is usually awkward. Sounds like your plan to have a serious talk is a good one.
I can totally understand why u feel that way even though i can't totally explain. I guess since u haven't had sex in over a month, u kind of put that single encounter behind u and tried to start afresh. Apparently, he didn't. What's done is done. You are not overreacting. Talk to him about him, and tell him u feel disrespected cos of the way he asked the question. Maybe u guys can make progress from there.
You can't unhave sex with him, so there's no use beating urself over it.
ooh first time here! thanks for stopping by mine!and i'mmost definetely blogrolling!!!
about this "situation" hmmmm, i get how it feels, the not understanding exactly what is going on in his mind (can be quite frustrating!), because he could have meant it in the most "guys will be guys" innocent way...*sigh* guys and their wahala sef!
buh seeing that you really like him, give him the benefit of the doubt and wait it out and time will tell how exactly he meant it..OR you could just straight out ask him what/how he meant it...
babe, u mentioned a post u have on cheatin that im supposed to read, on my blog, i cant seem to find it, pls cud u give me the link or somn?
What can i say...thank you all,FFF,Sting,theicequeen,naijalines...u all caught me.Last nite we had a talk,very ok...a definite that we would shag again,but taking it slow.I will always appreciate your comments.
Now the truth has come out...I think he wanted to make up.
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mmmmmm jus to clarify
did you just say you did not like the sex
or you mean you did not like what he said?
If its the latter talk to him im sure you will be able to thrash something out (pun intended)
If its the former run for your life...a guy can call me names BUT bad sex, bad sex is unforgiveable (in my books anyway lol)
uh..the link is unclickable, i might just have to go n search for it
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