Understanding the purpose of a thing determines how it is going to be utilized.This is why i advocate seriously that a woman be exactly CLEAR for herself when a man isn't measuring up, and that it NOT HER FAULT.
The purpose of any relationship is to grow.If there is no growth, the essence of the relationship is defeated.It is simply understanding what wasn't working,and the old roles you played, which all has to die inorder for you to grow.
It is important we become very honest with ourselves and what's really going on around us.Life is too short to hang around something that isn't good for you or makes you unhappy.The truth is avoiding trading your happiness, insights, or emotional wellbeing for someone's love or approval. It is downright frustrating and more often than not a surety for failure.
You and I know those relationships where you really care about or love someone, but it isn't just working!We try by all means to make or fix things by doing nice things, showing more love and what we get in return is more withdrawal and utter neglect. We make silly excuses for what's going on with our supposed partner by obssessing about what's wrong with US instead of having the confidence to take a good look at what your mate is really doing wrong and accepting this as the reality of the situation.
We all have our differences, we are never the same..our backgrounds,views, opinions, ethics are different, man and women reason differently.Understanding and communicating this clearly without any biases determines greatly how well put together a relationship can or should be.
If we have people in our lives who just can't seem to accept us or put up with us, then fine!It's their loss not our's, trying to play the role of the convincer is just a waste of time and emotion, This is why it is very essential you become clear for yourself on the differences between a "Real man" from a "Boy" so you don't get continuosly caught up in the frustrating and might i add dangerous patterns of trying to have a matured relationship with an immature man.
I realized we don't have to be sorry for who we are or how we were created,we could only be sorry for the errors and accidental mistakes we make and strive to be better, but not entirely kill ourselves about them.
Those who can leave us, can do so because they can...for if they had been for us, they would not have left us at all.
Wouldn't just knowing how a mature man really acts, thinks and talks like in a relationship make things a lot easier?
Doing some serious study...check out my next article, i'll tell you what i found out about the difference between a matured man and a jerk.
see ya...
2 comments:
Well, well, well...what can i say? you are so right red sapphire. for so long, women have lived lives they arent meant to live in the name of ''making it work''. They've faced shame and humiliation in the hands of men just because they think its their fault when its not working out and so, they take all the abuse and shabby treatment he passes down with a glass of tears....sigh
Its time to wake up to the hard truth that men are naturally a selfish lot, time to take the bull by the horn no matter how much it is raging and stay on top of the game for by so doing, we will cease from being victims. If its not working out, it is not working out, dont remain in a relationship where a man thinks he is a gift to you...hell no
Thats my friend areeng....yaayyy am so excited...there's progress...gist dey jo!
Am sure there's a good and matured man for u out there...no more shit heads..and we ma sef..promise to stop acting like shit heads too!
Thanks love, you're the best
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